Cuddle Buddies

Winter Is The Time

The winter is once again gracing us with its beauty, but along with the beauty come the cold.  This time of year always seems to bring certain emotions or feelings to everyone it affects: potential sadness, laziness, and other seemingly "downer" emotions.  But along with these unproductive emotions that winter brings with its cold touch, it also delivers a phenomenon of the "cuddle buddy".

If you have experienced the cuddle buddy phenomenon, then you know how great it is.  But there are a few who have witnessed a cuddle buddy relationship go sour and thats what today's post is all about: mastering the cuddle buddy relationship.

Pros/Cons

Like all things in relationships (kissing, DTR's, NCMO's, etc etc) you first need to weight the pros and cons to either doing something or not.  So lets make a quick, but not all inclusive, breakdown of the cuddle buddy in pros and cons.

PROS

• Touch
• Its a fact, physical touch can be extremely beneficial to your happiness
• Warmth
• Winter can drop to sub zero temperatures and your body needs to stay at a healthy 98.6 degrees...so it simple math...to compete with the cold temperatures, you HAVE to cuddle with someone to keep your body temp up
• Companionship
• To feel needed is to feel complete, its as easy as 1+1

CONS

• Mixed signals
• When any person has a physical interaction with another, it is very easy for one of the two involved to be misled that the physical interaction meant more then what it really was
• Wasted time
• When you have a cuddle buddy, all the time you are rocking the cuddle action, could be time you are missing in finding a boyfriend/girlfriend
• Boundaries
• Once into the full horizontal cuddle position, be careful!  This could easily lead into something more, and your standards are the only thing you have that keeps you safe

Cuddle Buddy Qualifications

So you've read the pros and cons and the decision has been made that it's your time to be a cuddle buddy.  Well thats good, but in your decision you have to understand that becoming a good cuddle buddy is way more important then choosing one.  If you are either looking for one or are one already, here's a list of good cuddle buddy attributes:

• Physical Attraction
• Girls - Remember that one of the best things about cuddling for you is the feeling of being small and protected in a man's arms.  So find someone who can do that for you, there isn't anything more awkward then a girl trying to cuddle with a guy smaller then her.
• Boys - choose a girl who you are attracted to, but more importantly someone you can laugh with because cuddling only is as good as the interactions that happen between the two of you.
• Skills to pay the bills
• You have to have good cuddling skills.  Too many times I will be chatting with someone and I'll ask them if they are a good cuddler and their response is, "I don't know".  If you don't know if you are a good cuddler or not, that means you probably aren't good and need to brush up on your skills:
• Interactive cuddling - This is a common thing to do; when cuddling make it a point to tickle your partners arms, belly and possibly neck.  By making things interactive, your cuddling will be fun, rather then two stiff boards just sitting there.
• Smell good - You might ask if this is a skill, well until everyone does it (which definitely is not true), it remains a skill.  Make sure to have your hair smell good girls it drives us men wild.  And guys be positive that your breathe smells fresh and you have showered that day!
• Flirt - Cuddling is an interaction of emotions just as much as an interaction of physical touch.  So make it fun by making it enjoyable through flirtatious comments and invigorating expressions of care.
• Desire
• Simply put, make sure the cuddle buddy you are pursuing wants to be your cuddle buddy.  You can't imagine how many people try to be a cuddle buddy with someone, but the other does not want to at all.  Be safe when choosing and just double check that they too want to cuddle the winter coldness away...with you.
• Priority
• Lastly make sure that you and your cuddle buddy have prioritized the actual cuddle buddy relationship the same.  Only problems will derive from a relationship in which one has it priority one and the other has it at the bottom of the list.

The Last Word

I by no ways am supporting the cuddle buddy phenomenon as a method in going From Single to Taken. This form of relationship only provides short term happiness, not the long term kind I am looking for or trying to help you find.  But you know what, even though it won't get you into a solid long term relationship...it is a good practice for when the right one does come along.  So lets bundle up and practice all night long!

This is not the best cuddle picture out there, but would this be fun on a long flight.